Today, the #AcrossTheFence interview series with my dad culminates with two segments — one where I explain how and why I began to think and write about race, and one where my dad shares a story about his Uncle Wilbur, the first Black fireman in New Castle, Pa (and the man my dad is named after).
Today is also my daughter's first birthday. It feels somewhat serendipitous that the day marking her first year on Earth happens to be the same day of this national conversation about family and healing.
As I watch these interviews I've conducted with my dad — capturing a few of the stories I've heard before (and hearing a couple new ones) — I think about what type of father I'm striving to be, and how my relationship with my dad and my now-deceased mom colors the relationship I have with my daughter. My wish — shit, my dream — is to be able to have the same types of conversations I'm having with my dad today (and the same type of relationship) with her 30 years from now.
Anyway, if you are able to, please share images or videos or whatever you have of you and your closest family members, with the hashtag #AcrossTheFence. You can do it in the comments here, on social media, or even in private emails with your friends and family. And if you don't have that type of relationship with your family, know that you have a family here.