Premature Bae Posting Syndrome


You have dated this man/woman/combination of the two for all of 33 seconds and now your entire social media platform is dedicated to them. Basic things change from “I” to “we” and you start doing obscure things like sharing chicken with them and posting “bae caught me slipping” images of you sleeping in the arms of said bae. Then the moment comes when they start posting love-filled quotes as captions under their relationship images like “I was lost before I met you”, “you are my lover, my best friend, and the reason for my curl pattern” etc.


A few weeks or day later, here I am sitting with my popcorn and whiskey, because that’s what real people do, swiping feverishly through my TL and notice the infamous selfie coupled with a Rob Hill Sr. quote about how they can do bad all by themselves. Keep in mind that this is the same person who was just on their Jordan Sparks “tell me how I’m supposed to breathe without air” flow three days ago and now they have gained that unfortunate 27 week gap between their photos.

It is very unfortunate to see someone’s Instagram go from 1,200 posts to all of 80. When they delete these photos, it seems as though they want us to Men in Black those images like they never happened. They want us to forget and not mention them falling victim to Premature Bae Posting Syndrome (PBPS). And now they become this bitter person with all these textgrams screaming that they are a strong independent person who doesn’t need a lover to validate them.


This could have all been avoided if they had a built their relationship on a solid foundation. Wikipedia and google searches have taught me that a solid foundation is key for longevity and sustainability. Posting and deleting shows the world that you lack such and that you have yet to learn your lessons from past relationships. That solid foundation is crucial before opening up your relationship to the online community. No one wants to be embarrassed. You’ve spent a number of weeks posting about this “significant other” only to have to delete and now are burdened to explain your business to the masses. You’re now forced to relive every moment of this breakup, all because you wanted to document how bae caught you slipping. Now you’ve slipped and fell into embarrassment and I am sure there’s no filter that goes well with that.

When you participate in PBPS you open the floodgates for a bevy of wrong and misfortune. We get that you’re excited about the new possibility for consistent sex, but please be smart about your actions. Always make sure that the relationship status is mutual. It’s no fun being head over heels for someone when they only consider you nothing more than a means to “get off.” God didn’t place you on this earth for one sided relationships and you should not be complacent with them either. There is no sufficient explanation for every single post on your social media account be dedicated to one person, while you’re not even a thought on there’s. You cannot expect people to take you or your relationship seriously when you have a new post of someone every other week.
Practicing discretion is key. In the beginning of a relationship the foundation can be a little shaky and one small emoji can bring things crumbling down.

There are people in this world that want nothing but negativity for you and would jump at a chance to steal your happiness, don’t let them. Always keep the lines of communication open and stay on the same page. If not, you become the person that we screenshot and laugh at and I am sure that is not the life you want for yourself.

There are other ways to show your love than through probating your love on Instagram. When in a relationship, you need to move at a pace that is comfortable for you and your partner. Do not compare your relationship to others and think that this is the norm for everyone. No relationship is built the same. Instead of premature posting, let's try consistent communication, corporeal means of affection, cooking dinner in their favorite position, just to name a few. If anything remember that Lil Wayne dropped an African American proverb that informed you that “Real G’s move in silence.” Now govern yourselves accordingly.

Chief Beyoncé Content Officer @ TheRoot. I aspire to be as steadfast & unmovable as Solange's wig. Former President of Hogwart's Black Student Union.

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First the author has confused DC with Atlanta. LOL

Still, I might be a fogey, but I don't get this new school living your relationship on social media. I'm not saying hide the fact that you have a significant other. However, the occasional photo or two is enough that people get the hint that you aren't on the market. Otherwise, when ish gets real, everyone you know on social media (and a bunch you don't know) will have their 2 cents to put in.

The art of not putting your business on Front Street is dead, I swear!